Attention cannot be purchased

My archived reflection on fatherhood drew a distinction between providing and being present. I keep that distinction without presenting private family experiences as a lesson for strangers. Presence means listening long enough to understand, noticing a question and being willing to set another concern aside. It does not require a perfect schedule. It does require that my children matter before an interruption becomes convenient for me.

Faith is lived in their hearing

I want to point my children toward Jesus without asking them to perform a public version of our family’s faith. They should have room for questions and for their own growing understanding. My example includes how I respond when I am wrong. An honest apology, followed by changed conduct, can say more about repentance than insisting that a father’s authority places him beyond correction.

Make room without claiming control

I can review what I have promised, protect time for conversation and put away a device when it competes with attention. Those are choices within my responsibility. I cannot manufacture my children’s convictions or guarantee their future by following a parenting formula. Fatherhood is stewardship of a relationship before God. Its aim is faithful love for the child in front of me, not control over the adult that child will become.

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